Monday, 29 December 2014

basis for a good life

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What forms the basis of a good life

The basis for a good life could be called the Base of, & for, your life. Is it:

  • our job
  • our family
  • our achievements, failures etc

Of course, it is, but it's also the daily habits we have which create a strong base in able for us to have a good life.


Daily habits

These daily habits are our base & they enable us:

  • to fly with the good times
  • & manage the harder times. 

No matter what we do in life, the hard times they do come, & with our basics of our life in place, we can get through difficulties easier. 


We also won't be so inclined to create a mountains out of molehills, we'll be less inclined to be "drama queens". 

Life is so much happier this way, & without life being unnecessarily hard, life then just gets better. And more meaningful.

Make it easy

The daily habits should be able to be absorbed into our life easily. One way of looking at this is: we have to do certain things anyway, like showering, eating, drinking, moving the body, getting dressed,
going to work or uni, etc, etc.  

If these habits make us feel good, be healthier, look better....what a bonus! So really we can reasonably swap 1 way of doing something, for another more effective way, providing it suits us. And sometimes, to find what suits us, we have to try a couple of different things.

The Base of our life should be able to be fitted in, it's not meant to take up all of our life. For a woman to feel good & look good she would be looking at how the inner her: 

  • how she thinks & feels, particularly about herself (self-esteem)
  • the physical/ health aspect - diet/nutrition, exercise/movement
  • & the outer her....clothes, posture, image.

Make it easy with systems

I always think of the whole scenario as being like a job where you have work systems. For example: a system to open up a shop/office/building (you get the idea), which would include turning on lights, sorting the alarms, phone messages, emails & other I.T. things. The there would be a similar system for closing the business each night. 

Ideally these systems become automatic & therefore easy.

So we need efficient systems too, ones that become automatic, that slot easily into our life. And that 'get the job done', so to speak. With adding relaxed awareness & constant practice, everything will become easy.

Wednesday, 5 February 2014

more life principles for your own uniqueness

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Just keep going

The 1st extra principle is constant practice. This means that whatever we are doing...we just keep doing it. Sounds so simple, yet often isn't. I think that often we make things hard for ourselves by trying to do too many changes or habits, or just generally complicating things. 

                                      "keep it simple"

Discernment

The next is often misunderstood, in yoga it's called viveka, & many interpret this as 'being detached.' And this in turn is often mistaken for coldness, uncaring. 

No!!! A rich, full life does have caring! And warmth! Viveka could be called 'discernment'. This is a type of intelligence; you may understand it even better as common sense. 

So, with our wonderful unique life that we are creating, it's really smart to bring common sense into play.

Make it about mattering to your life

Whatever you do, whatever you change or expend, or delete, should be relevant to:

  • your life
  • your own time
  • your own personality
  • of course, if we live with others, especially family, we take this into consideration too, as it would be wonderful that our new enriched life includes a more enriched, better, life for others also.

Smart goals

Relevance to our own life is part of smart goals, a planning system which helps us with working out whether or not something/someway is suitable for us. It goes like this:

  • S stands for something that you can stick to (constant practice!)
  •  M stands for moderation - right for you & your life
  •  A is for achievable: you can do it, & enjoy it; it's not so hard that you will fail
  •  R is for reasonable because it will fit easily with your goals, expectations, values.
  •  T is time -efficient, i.e. easy to slot into your daily/weekly/monthly/etc schedule.

When we ask ourself if something we are planning to do meets these Smart criteria, & we work it out from Smart, we will be applying common sense.

Let go of expectations

The next principle may sound strange, especially to results-oriented westerners. It's non-attachment to the outcome.

 How can that be?? With our always working out what we want, how it should be, how ......etc....etc, we are placing expectations upon the results. Let me assure you that the results will exceed our expectations.

By confining ourselves to 'what we want', we are placing invisible barriers to our happiness, for, as we grow & our lives become more fulfilling, the results will take us to where we are supposed to go. 

When we rigidly decide what is best for ourselves, we are blocking the opportunities that our individual destiny has for us.

So we can work towards something without placing rigid expectations upon the outcome. 

Whatever you do for your unique life, will keep moving along, gathering momentum if we keep our batteries charged up, so to speak:

  • with constant practice
  • letting go of our ideas about the outcome
  • keeping it simple & doable. 
You will be amazed at the results.



Saturday, 18 January 2014

the 2 crucial elements for change

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A Yogic principle

The two crucial elements for change, well, for anything really, according to yoga, are that we need energy & consciousness. 

To make it really simple, we need:

  • to do something 
  • & we need the mind, or awareness aspect, also. 

These are 2 very important yogic principles.

Doing

When we just do, whatever, without awareness, or, without knowing what we're doing, well, we end up with scattered energy. We expend a lot of energy, or doing, which can be 'all over the place'. 

This strangely enough doesn't create a good energy. We can lose a lot of energy, or doing-power, following this route. We get tired. And we simply really don't know what we're doing.

Imagining

And if we put a lot of mental energy into something without actually doing anything concrete, then, nothing really happens. We are just imagining it. 

I think that this is one of my 'issues' with greedily visualisating to get what we want, but not doing anything about it. No, that's not quite true: the greed aspect, that's what I'm not impressed with.

We need both elements: the physical act of doing, & the mental act of awareness. 

Awareness, mindful

In the awareness area we can sort out what to do. This makes sense. We can keep our mind on what we're doing too whilst we carry out our plans.

They are a duo

How it works in yoga, is that we become aware that consciousness & energy work together, side by side. 

When we allow this to become part of our life, this in turn creates a special energy inside of us, a  more enduring & relaxed energy. 

We have a vast reservoir of energy inside of us, & with You Are Unique we are going to  learn how to let it flow, how to let it develop & grow. 

Also, with these 2 aspects working side by side, our awareness increases. We get smarter. More 'knowing'. It creates a completion in the personality.

How to start

So, how do we start with this? Simply by us having relaxed focus on what ever's happening. Relaxed, not intense 'cutting edge' awareness. That's exhausting & silly. 

If you're talking with someone, be aware of what you're saying, be aware of them. If you're, say, hammering, be aware of what your hammer is aiming for. Have some commonsense with this. 

Some people get so focused on themselves that it all turns into 'it's all about me!'. Not a good look.

Whenever the awareness wanders, as it will, this is what happens & is how the mental aspect works, gently bring the awareness back to what you're doing. Don't try to stop your thoughts etc....we have a gazillion thoughts stirring around inside of us...we cannot stop them....let them flow, but.....have relaxed awareness on what is happening.













Friday, 17 January 2014

so, what is 'you are unique' about?

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What is You Are Unique?

In a nutshell, it's about unfolding one's inner potential. And there are so many ways, so many levels, to do this. As a clairvoyant, healer & as a spiritual yoga teacher (www.swamiratnamurti.com) I have always approached any form of change by including a yogic point of view, which includes managing the mind & emotions. 

But I totally believe that this is not all that is needed. We also need to look at: 

  • our bodies with diet, exercise
  • our lifestyles - habits, time available
  • our personal needs....the list can be quite big. 
If you're a working mother, your priorities & your time demands are quite different from someone whose children have 'left the nest'. 

As a student, at any age...again time & priorities are different. 

And then there's money....at different times of our life, we have different financial needs & outlays. This needs to be taken into account too. 

The basis of being unique

However I truly believe that we can do:

  • small disciplines
  • routines
  • habits
which can be:

  • easily incorporated into our life
  • that don't cost a lot of money
  • & that help transform our life.
I do know that now, lots of other people are blogging about the same things. But this is from me, from my own heart, from my own experience.

But principle of becoming unique

It has been found that just a 5% change will give a 20% increase in whatever area you're applying it. 

1st step: A simple example would be to make a 5% change.......without calculating anything...let's just use 5% as a metaphor, not as an actual percentage, in these examples: what about cutting down your fat intake if that's an area that you need to work on.... you could look at 5% calculation, but easier still would be to perhaps see what a fat serving looks like. We're talking butter, oil, etc, here. So it's added fats, not the existing fats in food. If you look at your index finger or thumb (2 different measurements) from tip to the 1st knuckle from the top, & use 1 of these measurements as your added fat serve, immediately you'll be cutting down on fatty food intake. We're assuming here that's your problem, for the sake of this exercise.

2nd step: Keep going till it's a habit. Of course, that applies to any habit changes. It will take you about 3 weeks for each one, to become a way of life. So, getting back to the added fat thing, (our example).....for about 3 weeks you'll need to consistently keep it in mind. 

And your weight will go down, you will have inadvertently triggered off your 20% increase....or, decrease of fat, but 20% improvement of health. You'll look & feel good.

To briefly sum up

So, you are unique is about:

  • looking & feeling good
  • having a better life
  • making small changes 1 at a time, as in the 5% rule
  • allowing about 3 weeks to settle the change into your life. 
  • doing positive changes that fit easily into your life, that don't cost a lot of money.


I've found that putting these wee changes into place give me increased energy & improve my health & life. 

Using small increments of change, as time goes on, you will 1 day wonder where the 'old' you went. The you who got tired, sick, overwhelmed....you will look & feel better, younger, more vital, have more energy. 

Your uniqueness will be showing, shining.

you are unique intro

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Background to You Are Unique

When I was in my mid twenties, I found a book written in 1976, by a woman who had rejuvenated herself. She had turned 40, and looked and felt old. 

As a former psychologist, she felt that she could investigate how, what, and why, this had happened. And the book was what she did find worked for her, to grow more youthful, happier, healthier, and return to work as a psychologist. 

This was in an era where 35 was "old", and women had to overcome a lot of obstacles to have a job. Strange to imagine, now, but true. 

This book, which I still have, totally inspired me. I realised that you didn't have to do much to look and feel better, have a better life, and not race into old age. 

Even though I have since done many things with my life, that book still provides the framework. It was amazing. Plus, she used yoga as her fitness, and body toning. And I had been doing yoga for a few years at this stage.

A difficult time in life

In the 1988 I had just had my 3rd child, after a gap of 17 years. I had no job, no income, no home, hardly any possessions, and was a single mother. I was also living in a difficult situation whilst I awaited some welfare aid, which took it's time coming! 

I had worked 24/7 (no income) during the pregnancy setting up a company with some friends, & I left the job 2 days after the birth, as I had a bad feeling that it was not good to keep going with the company. Time proved me right.

So I wrote a course

But I had to do something!! I am not suited to doing nothing. So, I wrote a course called 'You are Unique'. Which I suppose was a strange thing to do. 

But I had a lot of specialised yoga knowledge & wanted to use that knowledge to help women have a better life. I was teaching private yoga classes, had taught natal throughout my pregnancy, & I had a few clients who were learning the deeper more mystical aspects of yoga. 

I was also meeting a lot of women whose lives were difficult & unbalanced, & I felt that I could write a course, based on yoga, and inspired by the above-mentioned book, that would help all women have a more meaningful & happier life.

I wrote the course, whilst baby slept. She was not the sort of baby who believed in sleeping!

The first course was 10 weeks, the 2nd was 8 weeks & I was looking at upmarketing it. You know, going into an area of professional & wealthier women, although my target market was actually the woman who was not so affluent. Neither was I & I could really relate to their situations. 

Anyway, there were unethical difficulties from a few associates regarding my course, so I withdrew it. 

But I did meet up with some of the women who had done the course, and I swear that I did not recognise them at first. They had changed so much, they had become

  • healthier
  • happier
  • younger
  • more individual
I was so overcome seeing how much these women had grown.


Revamped course

I did do the course again. This time, the students clamoured for me to teach them only what they wanted!! Which was rather strange, but I did comply, & everyone loved it. We did the course as 3 workshops: 

  • Image
  • Abundance
  • Manifestation. 
Different & quite charming.

How I decided to blog the course

Recently, I decided to clean out my life. Physically. As in a Big-Biff-Out. You can guess what I found. Yep. You Are Unique....several workshops of hand-outs, plus Image, Abundance, Manifestation. 

As I read everything, I realised that everything was still current. Strangely. I wrote them all before positive thinking books like The Secret, before we had a plethora of exercise, yoga, or diet, books. 

"I've kept all this for a reason" was my thought. "But what shall I do with it?"

I know. I'll blog it & expand on it. So I did.

But I will tell you, that 1976 book still influences me and what, how and why, I write.



moving in different worlds

                              I moved from one world, into another, when I was young When I was twelve, I went to live with Dad, and my ...